5 Huge Mistakes Ruining the Romantic Relationships in Your Book

I’ll be the first to admit that there’s a serious problem with romantic relationships in literature nowadays.

And worse, this issue seems to be overlooked by the large majority of writers — until it’s too late, that is.

The problem: The unrealistic and unhealthy portrayal of romantic relationships.

There. I said it and now people can take notice because yes, there is a serious lack of realism when it comes to the romantic relationships in books..

Authors are writing relationships that are meant to be exciting and intense, but their execution of those couples can be flawed in sometimes very harmful, although unintentional ways.

There’s nothing wrong with writing romance. In fact, adding a romantic relationship to your book can do it some good. The dynamic of love can:

  • Up the stakes
  • Make readers more emotionally invested in the characters
  • Create contrast in emotions, adding to the coveted “roller coaster” of emotions
  • Give your readers another reason to root for your main character

All of these powerful elements can make your book a lot better, but only if you can create a relationship that isn’t problematic for the readers.

Which means you’ll want to avoid these mistakes many writers might not even realize they’re making when it comes to the romantic relationships in their stories.

1. Glamorizing abuse

This might be the biggest, most overlooked issue in books. There are way too many authors writing abusive relationships and passing them off as romantic, particularly in the young adult genre, though this can be seen in all types of books.

If you’re not sure what this looks like, it’s when writers portray abuse as love.

They write about a person being overly jealous and verbally abusive to their partner and have the main character justify it by narrating that the other person “just can’t live with the thought of losing” them. So the main character is written as seeing this abuse as true love.

This romanticization of abuse is simply harmful to anyone reading it. Young people might turn to books when it comes to learning about romance. If they don’t have a healthy relationship to learn from in real life, they might think the relationships in books is how it’s supposed to be.

Therefore, they accept abuse and pass it off as the person just “caring about them too much” because that’s what they’ve seen in their favorite books.

In order to avoid these types of mistakes, make sure your relationships are written consensually. Think about how you’d feel and act given the situation you’re putting your characters in.

A general rule is, if you’d be appalled by someone being treated that way in real life, it’s not right.

2. Instant romances

Think about the romantic relationships you’ve been in or have seen around you. How often do you hear two people locking eyes across a restaurant and falling madly and immediately in love with one another?

Not often. Because it’s not realistic, and that’s not the way love works.

For those of you unfamiliar with this term, it’s just as it sounds. An instant romance is when two people meet and are in “love” and in a committed relationship instantly. Or within a very, very short amount of time, which is not remotely accurate.

However, there are many novelists who write romances this way with the intention of creating an intense moment, but it sends a very harmful message to young readers and  takes away from the realism in your book.

You can write intensity without making your characters be “in love” right off the bat.

Relationships take time. You have to get to know one another first, build the chemistry and allow that spark to ignite before you can begin that romantic journey.

Why should your book characters be any different?

If you want the relationship to be realistic and keep your readers fully immersed in it, you have to give it the appropriate amount of time to grow and evolve.

3. Making a single person passive in the relationship

Relationships aren’t about one person seizing control of the other and making all the choices.

Both people should be equally as active in the ongoings of the partnership. Because it’s just that — a partnership.

This makes it a little concerning when writers make a single person who just goes with the flow and doesn’t really care about much. This person doesn’t initiate anything, make any choices for the sake of the relationship and when going gets tough, they sit back and let the other person do everything.

This is both unrealistic and just plain boring. It doesn’t add anything interesting to the dynamic of the relationship and readers won’t root for them.

Make sure you’re writing a romantic relationship between two people, not between a person and a passive robot.

4. Writing relationships without commonalities

If two people are in a relationship, they should have things in common. They don’t need to both like the same food, movies, books and activities, but they should have similarities at their core.

If you have two characters who are moral opposites and don’t share the same values, your readers are going to question why they’re together in the first place.

And if you can’t really answer why they’re together other than the fact that they need to be for plot reasons, you’ll have to do some adjusting. Characters can’t just be involved for the sake of the story’s conflict.

If those two people need to be in a relationship for your plot to work, then you need to put just as much effort into their dynamic as a couple as you do for the entire plot.

Otherwise, the plot won’t matter because readers won’t care about the relationship.

5. Never allowing for vulnerability

In order for your characters to bond on a deep enough level for love to be in the air, some vulnerability needs to happen. They need to open up to each other and express more emotions than lust and longing.

How else will they be able to grow closer? Allowing for moments of vulnerability shows their weaknesses. Not only will this be important for crafting a stronger emotional connection between characters, it’ll also help your readers connect with them more.

Here are a few ways you can create some vulnerability:

  • Have one character get injured
  • Create conflict involving something one is particularly sensitive about
  • Make a character break down from the stress of your plot
  • Have them share secrets

Even strong, tough characters need moments of vulnerability and weakness. Not only does this make the relationship stronger, your readers will also like the character a lot more because they’ll be able to relate. Two birds, one stone.

Adding romantic relationships to your novel can up the stakes, add a layer of interest and give your audience all the lovey-dovey feels, but in order to have those effects take hold, you’ll need to write them correctly.

And writing them correctly means avoiding these mistakes that can take your fictional relationship from realistically impactful to harmfully impactful.

Are there any mistakes you’ve noticed other authors making when it comes to romantic relationships in books and what tips do you have for writers trying to avoid these pitfalls?

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The 7 Questions of Creativity

Jeff Leisawitz, the author of Not F*ing Around: The No Bullshit Guide for Getting Your Creative Dreams Off the Ground, recently interviewed the founder of LA Screenwriter, Angela Bourassa, about creativity as it relates to screenwriters. Check out the interview below. Hopefully it will answer some of your questions and inspire some creativity of your own.

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‘Stargate’ Duo Team On Fantasy Adventure Series ‘The Outpost’

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Created by Arrowstorm’s Jason Faller and Kynan Griffin, The Outpost is the story of a strong female hero named Talon, the lone survivor of a race called Blackbloods, as she tracks the killers…
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Music Video: Marilyn Manson – We Know Where You F*cking Live

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‘Bride Of Frankenstein’ Back To Lab As London Pre-Production Postponed; Javier Bardem & Angelina Jolie Expected To Wait

EXCLUSIVE:Universal Pictures is pressing pause on Bride of Frankenstein, the Bill Condon-directed remake of the 1935 horror classic. Pre-production had gotten underway in London for a February 1 production start, but the crew has just been told to go home for the time being. Javier Bardem has been in talks to play Frankenstein’s Monster, and Angelina Jolie has been in talks to play his reanimated, reluctant mate in the second film in Universal’s Dark Universe initiative…
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Interview: Robert Mukes (Coffin 2)

Actor Robert Mukes (“House of 1000 Corpses”, “WestWorld”, “Weeds”, Backwoods”) spoke with Horrornews.net about his brand new film “Coffin 2” coming to REDBOX and will be in stores nationwide. Hi Robert, How is everything going? Robert- Good. I am traveling a lot. I sign autographs for the film “House of 1000 Corpses” so when I …

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‘Walking Dead’ EP Gale Anne Hurd On “Badass” Season 8 & New ‘Lore’ Series – New York Comic-Con Q&A

“There’s a lot I can’t tell you, but I will say that even if you follow the comic book, get ready because Season 8 is big and it is badass,” The Walking Dead executive producer Gale Anne Hurd says of the upcoming new season of AMC’s hit zombie apocalypse series.
At New York Comic-Con this weekend for a Madison Square Garden panel on TWD ahead of its October 22 season premiere, Hurd’s doing double duty at the confab again. In 2016, it was TWD and USA Network’s Falling Water…
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Interview: Julia Campanelli (Dementia 13)

Hi Julia, how are you? Julia- Hi Janel. I am great! So tell us a little bit about preparing to play Gloria in “Dementia 13.” You did such a good job and you played Gloria with humanity and did such a good job. Julia- Gloria, well Gloria, I think first that it was a well-written …

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Netflix Raising Prices For Two Of Its Subscription Plans

Netflix is increasing the prices for two of its U.S. subscription plans, beginning in November.
According to the streaming service’s signup page, the most basic plan remains $7.99 a month. But the mid-priced Netflix option enabling streaming on two devices at once has gone up to $10.99 from $9.99 a month, and the highest-end subscription, with high-definition streaming on up to four devices, is now $13.99, up from $11.99.
Wall Street appeared to approve of the move, as…
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‘Future Man’ Trailer: Josh Hutcherson Travels Through Time On A Quest To Cure Herpes

“Congratulations. You are the savior”. That savior is Josh Futterman (Josh Hutcherson), janitor by day/gamer by night who is recruited by mysterious visitors to travel through time in order to prevent the extinction of humanity.
Hulu has released the official trailer for Future Man, ahead of its presentation today at New York Comic-Con. Hutcherson along with fellow stars Eliza Coupe, Derek Wilson and Haley Joel Osment will join the creators, Kyle Hunter and Ariel Shaffir…
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